What’s your sex number? Inquiring minds want to know! Ok so now that I have your attention! Your sex number is a number that theoretically determines your sexual risk based on the number of direct and indirect partners that you’ve had from age 16.
After reading an article that the average British person has had indirect sex with 2.8 million people, I was dying to know how many people I’d tangentially slept with. So I went to this website Sex Degrees of Sexual Partners,” a calculator developed by Lloyd’s Pharmacy designed to scare you the freaking crap out of you or at the very least, make you think about your risk behaviors! And while the numbers may or may not be accurate, it definitely helps to promote sexual health awareness and helps you to re-evaluate your sexual behaviors, attitudes and lifestyle.
Based on the ideal of the Six degrees of separation (also referred to as the “Human Web”) which refers to the thought that, if a person is one step away from each person they know and two steps away from each person who is known by one of the people they know, then everyone is at most six steps away from any other person on Earth. The “Sex Degrees of Sexual Partners” totals up the numbers based on your number of partners, then their previous partners, and their former lovers, and so on for six “generations” of partners.
This information is intended to remind us that when we have sex with someone, we are, in effect, not only having sex with them, but also their previous partners and their partners’ previous partners, and so on. It’s important that people understand how exposed they are to sexually transmitted infections and take appropriate precautions in protecting themselves. In addition, I hope this information will spark open and honest conversations about sex and sexuality.
It’s so important to ask your mate or potential mate the right questions. You have right to know their sexual thoughts, attitudes and behaviors! If they aren’t willing to divulge the information, then you may want to consider losing that mate and finding a new one! Your life is far more important than a few moments of pleasure.
Although this study was conducted in the UK, I can’t only help but to wonder what the average would be for a man or woman in the US. Theoretically thinking about the millions of people you’ve sort-of slept with makes you a little queasy.
Now that you’re effectively terrified, I still encourage you to use the Sex Degrees of Sexual Partners to help you put things into perspective and make the necessary behavioral changes! And if you really want a get scared monogamous, ask your mate his or her sex number too.