A. Talk to your partner about the great times you’ve already had in bed. Be very specific about what you need. Rather than criticizing your partner about the things you don’t like, say exactly what you love and tell him you want more of it. You can also take his hands and gently guide them to your “hot spots.” As you guide his hands be sure to moan and groan to indicate that you are turned on and enjoying it. These two techniques will help to ensure that your partner is giving you what you want + boosting his confidence because he knows he’s pleasing you = mind blowing orgasms for both of you!
Over the years on my journey of growth, I have come to fully embrace the notion that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What this phase simply means is that beauty is a divine spirit comes from within and not from societal ideology. So why then do we subscribe to this ideology? Why do we spend all of our time and money trying dangerously to alter ourselves so that we fit into a narcissistic belief system instead of being true to who we are, loving ourselves and owning it?
Loving yourself extends far and beyond putting on make up and a pretty dress. It’s much deeper than the too die for designer handbag and my beloved it’s much higher than the 4inch stiletto heels we strut in! It transcends!! And yes while beauty is in the eye of the beholder, there are just some things you can not cover up with pretty fabric anddesigner labels no matter how much is cost.
The fallacy that being beautiful on the outside will get you the love you so desire is an unfortunate delusion, courtesy of the media, that we’ve all been guilty of believing. When the fact of the matter is that we can be all dressed up and beautiful on the outside but yet very unattractive on the inside.
True beauty is defined by the spirit of character and not by reputation or physicality. It is seeing the divine in yourself and others regardless of all the distressing disguises.
Ownership is the key to true beauty. You have to really dig deep inside your soul to truly own it. You must face fears, dispel myths and negative stigma that society deems as beautiful. You must be willing to go against the status quo and become comfortable walking in your own heels.
The key to ownership is learning to love yourself in all your colors, and yes even the part that you so desire to change because you’re confident in knowing that change will occur over time. Learning to trust and follow the divine spirit within yourself will enable you to find the strength and courage to own all that is authentically yours. And as you begin to embrace the divine spirit within you, you will posses the capacity to manifest and attract all you need and/or desire; and that my Beloved is true beauty….a divine spirit that has no boundaries, no form, no beginning or ending. It can never fade or die because it is energy!
HUMILITY, HUMBLE in adjectival form, is a conscious act or posture of lowering one self in relation to others. It involves having a modest opinion of one’s own importance or rank. HUMILITY is the opposite of pride. HUMILITY never has an attitude of entitlement. It considers every “small” and “big” blessing as a Gift from God. When we are HUMBLE, we are totally dependent on God and operate in His strength not ours because HUMILITY knows that only through Christ are we able to do all things. My Beloved we must be careful not to think of ourselves more highly than we ought! We must strive to clothe ourselves in HUMILITY. Removing pride and dressing in HUMILITY is very important because it affects every area of our lives. When we have a HUMBLE heart and mind, it’s evident. We don’t have to broadcast it because it shows in how we move and act. Our words and interactions with others are much more gentle and kind! We do not belittle or put others down. Instead we pour into them and lift them up. So today, let’s purposely develop a posture of HUMILITY by challenging ourselves to recognize our prideful ways. When we do this our hearts, thoughts, words, and actions will be more profound and create lasting and positive changes in ourselves and others.
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Q. I am a 25 year old woman and I have never experienced an orgasm! What is the quickest way for me to have one? Can you please tell me?
A. The easiest and quickest way to experience an orgasm is to STOP trying. Having “goal-oriented sex” is a sure way to not meet your “goal!” Women who are more comfortable with their body and overall sexuality are more likely to experience sexual pleasure. Also, having a thorough understanding of your body and how it works helps to increase your chances of experiencing orgasm. Exercising the PC muscles, self-pleasure and talking with your partner about what REALLY gives you pleasure are all helpful techniques. But most importantly RELAX! Tension in your body, stress and emotional blocks will also prevent you from experiencing an orgasm.
INTEGRITY refers to honesty of character and consistency of Purpose, principles, and intentions. It involves a personal choice to be uncompromising, dependable and committed to honoring the truth in our thoughts, words and actions. INTEGRITY stands in opposition to hypocrisy in that it means standing on ones beliefs and values regardless of what the world says. INTEGRITY is the Word and our word! With INTEGRITY we stand for something without it, we fall for anything because we aren’t of consistent character. My Beloved God wants His Absolute best for us but in order to receive it, we must have INTEGRITY! A person of INTEGRITY is living rightly, not divided, nor being a different person in different circumstances. A person of INTEGRITY is the same person in private or public. “He who walks in INTEGRITY walks securely, But he who perverts his ways will be found out.” When we walk in INTEGRITY, we do not have to fear that we will be exposed. “The INTEGRITY of the upright will guide them, But the falseness of the treacherous will destroy them.” When we walk in INTEGRITY we operate from a place of love and honesty and our words and actions line up. “A righteous man who walks in his INTEGRITY; How blessed are his sons after him.” INTEGRITY leaves a legacy. What type of legacy do you want to leave the world? Think about it….